The Thai Connection: How Fit Older Men Attract Young Women

— A Reality Check for the Misinformed

“Forbidden love in Thailand: a closer look at the controversial relationships between older expats and younger Thai women, examining the motivations and cultural factors at play.”

54 Pages, 41 Photos.

Ironically, those who will presume immediately what this book is about, scoff, and move on, are the ones who need the values in this book the most. They’ll miss the forest for the trees, never having understood how and why this happens, and what widely applicable, common chords and themes are in play that apply to every man-woman relationship on earth. This goes equally, perhaps even more, for women.

Preface

My treatment of this topic is not for the purpose of making anyone feel bad. But any taboo topic will do that anyway, and you’ll see me talk about “knowing the terrain” farther below in this manuscript.

I’m aware that will happen and that in self-defense, some might become angry over those bad feelings…maybe even lash out and project those feelings in that way, as a result.

I could say “deal with it,” but that’s not helpful either.

I want to be helpful. Especially in this; because, this is merely one way to express and explain dynamics in human relationships that have wide application. I couldn’t write a general book on man-woman relationships. Sure, I’ve had lots of girlfriends in 62 years of life. Married for 18 years. Got a divorce.

Who hasn’t? So, where’s the above-and-beyond credibility?

But as a 21-year-old US Navy Midshipman on summer cruise, discovering Asian women in Korea and Japan for the first time in 1982…heading back to finish college and having a full-blooded Filipina coed girl for the remainder of school…heading off in 1984 to Navy officer duties in home-base Japan, with a multitude of visits to Korea, Philippines, Hong Kong, Singapore, Thailand, Malaysia, and Indonesia over the next 5 years—filling up my 20s and early 30s with nothing-but-Asian?

… Moving to Thailand in early 2020, 29 years since the last time I’d set foot here, 59 years old, and soon finding myself shacked up in Chiang Mai with a 27-year-old as though time had stood still?

… And, of course, doing then what serious men with basic good intentions do here. You go to her village, build them a house, buy them a car, tend to the two kids, get them in better schools…all that stuff?

Yea…that? I can write about that.

This isn’t a guide book, a roadmap, or any sort of me telling anyone what they should or shouldn’t do. It’s what I’ve observed and what I’ve done as a result. That’s all.

… I’ve attained the age of 62 in good health and in good shape. I don’t eat like a kid who can get away with bad choices on a daily basis. I don’t sit in outdoor girl bars all afternoon getting my ass kicked at Connect Four, growing a beer belly…in fact, ironically perhaps, that sort of scene is part of my motivation for cutting alcohol out of my life during this journey. For me, it’s a richer, more meaningful experience without it…and perhaps because it’s so normal to be half-sloshed on a daily basis.

I’ve seen thousands of other men like me, drawn to these shores by the allure of the East. Some of them have shared their thoughts with me; the guys, and their exotic companions alike. Their stories, added to my own, form the basis of this narrative. 

But I’m not just relying on anecdotes. I’ve also got the facts, the data, and a keen understanding of the cultural norms of Southeast Asia—Thailand, in particular. I’ve been living here—an ex-Navy-O on foreign soil, just a stone’s throw from Pattaya Beach, where this guy first literally stepped ashore in ’86 while on R&R from the USS Reeves, at anchor in the bay.

I took leave from my duties aboard ship for those 5 days so that I could take it all in—in a fashion reminiscent of drinking from fire hydrants.

The past and the present: melded together in uncanny and serendipitous ways.

Since my life isn’t exactly a Mark 1, Mod A sort of conventional or cookie-cutter experience where I know how the story ends (I don’t, only how it most likely doesn’t), I figure that it affords me the opportunity to write something where readers don’t already know all the levels, play-outs, punchlines, subplots, and endings.

Asia is vastly different from America, and apart from the women I’ve always found attractive, it’s also about how every aspect of human behavior is informed by cultural differences so far removed from one another that I believe they’ve found a path where East can never meet West.

And I, for one, hope that it never does.

Asia is for the Asians.

I’m a visitor and hope to always be in that slot of limbo…or purgatory…take your pick. I’d hate to ever really know all that much about it.

That would ruin it for me.

So let me tell you some stories.

… But first, one other important thing. The most astute readers will pretty quickly realize that this isn’t really a book on “how old dudes can pick up young, sexy Thai chicks.”

I’ll leave you with that thought to keep in mind, as you figure out for yourself what it’s really about…

Contents

1. Introduction
2. The Thai Connection: A Deeper Look
3. What I’m Up To
4. Some Guy Steps In It With RFK Jr on Hypertrophy and Male T
5. Bar Girls, Massage Parlors, and Freelancers
6. The Philosophy of Old Dudes and Young Chicks as a Natural Phenomenon in Thailand
7. Getting Along With Far Younger Women In Bed
8. Getting Along With Far Younger Women in Daily Life
9. Increasing Testosterone Naturally
10. Adopting The Formula
11. What’s In It For the Young Women?
12. Closing Rambles